Its odd to feel at peace, but still want more. Its unusual for me to be calm in my current state (mentally, physically, spiritually, etc) and still yearn for what’s next. I love where I am. I’m proud of myself for getting here. For making the journey. Its like when you’re on a hike, and you’re just trudging through the incline. One step in front of another. Your head is down so you don’t trip, each footstep is specific and trained. But every now and again I look up. And right now, looking up, I’m stunned by the beauty of it all. The beauty within me, the beauty in everything I’ve created for myself.

Its odd to admire myself. I wouldn’t say I’m uncomfortable with the feeling, in fact, I like how it feels. I’m just not use to it. We, as women, have never been taught how to admire ourselves. Only others. Only things. Nothing internal, just the external.

But here I am. Here I stand. Looking at my hands, my feet. Looking at everything I’ve created. Externally yes, but internally too. Its powerful. I gain a sense as to why men wouldn’t want women to feel this way. Empowered, capable and impressive as all hell.

The Kitchen

I just wish cooking with him

was fun.

Where is the friendly banter?

Where is the unspoken dance between oven and sink?

Waltz with me to the fridge.

But we have no rhythm in here.

Ignorance in hopes of bliss

Sarcastic answers

with disgruntled huffs.

Passive aggressive gestures

with blatant body language

it speaks so loudly,

“just let me do it myself”

you’re stressed

and I’ve lost my appetite.

LoveShackFancy x Hurley

Last week the long awaited collaboration of LoveShackFancy (LSF) and Hurley was finally released. From bikinis, to towels and chairs and including mens and boys, the collection is bringing you everything you need for the perfect beach day. The boho beach babe within me is ecstatic. Not only does the collaboration range from ultra fem, florals to bold, bright hues, there is function behind these pieces. From rash guards, wet suits and board shorts, this collection is actually designed for surfers. That is the genius behind partnering with an iconic brand like Hurley. The skate and surf world can be tough to enter into as a new comer, maybe even more so if you’re wearing neon pink. For LoveShackFancy to have a brand like Hurley hold their hand as they venture into this new, intimidating, category of specific sport pieces might just be the best shaman to have on their journey.

What’s more about this collection is the underlying tone of not just girl power, but girl empowerment. A genre mostly marketed for boys or tomboys, LSF has genuinely changed the conversation. Standing up and claiming space for those (girls, boys, men, women and they) who like to skate and wear the color pink.

While this may be viewed as just another collaboration with a sporting brand, I beg to differ. I believe this collaboration in particular is important to the young people that both brands impact in their market and in the consumers’ lives. Why are we not able to surf with flowers in our hair? Why is it such a wild concept for boys to wear pink floral board shorts? This collaboration quietly, but firmly, breaks down the barrier of feminine vs. masculine. These pieces pose questions and resistance to the common gender norms and social expectations. What we see in this collection is invigorating, uplifting, inspiring and exciting. Let me be clear, this collaboration is a celebration and inclusion of everyone. Proving that you can be girly and nail a kick flip.

Often times, we see collaborations between brands that don’t make sense (looking at you Balenciaga and Crocs). It makes you question the motivation behind the partnership. Would a brand really make money and exposure that obvious? This is where we find the turn from hesitation to opposition. LoveShackFancy is no stranger in creating authentic partnerships with brands similar in aesthetic and values. The key to partnering with LoveShackFancy is simple, the brand needs to live seamlessly, naturally, in a LSF life. We see it in their past collaborations with brands like Beach Riot and Superga. LoveShackFancy was created off the Atlantic, their first store opening in Sag Harbor, so we know the love of the ocean runs deep in this brands’ bones. A partner like Hurley isn’t just a fun collab, it makes sense for both companies to want to try something new together. And how lucky are we to be a part of it?

The collaboration of LSF x Hurley is the perfect, cheerful, ode to summer we all needed in 2021. The collection touches every aspect of your beach day and provides you with the picturesque seaside oasis. Grab your straw hat and umbrella, slip on your bikini and skate to the shore because this is the one life you live and LoveShackFancy is here to encourage you and inspire you to live it.

Statement Collars

Whether it is an ode to the late icon RBG, or continuing on theme from some of the most popular shows we’re watching at home (looking at you, Bridgerton and The Great), statement collars are the newest accessory to your closet. These bold and fun pieces create a playful twist on a once masculine detail. Much like the exaggerated shoulder, these statement collars can be found on dresses, blouses and knits alike. Detachable iterations allow these eye-catching collars to be accessorized in an alternative look with t-shirts, sweatshirts, or just about anything you want. Sweeping our Instagram feeds, brands like @bigbabygoestowork are taking full advantage of this whimsical new piece. While high-end designers, like Ganni, have these collars dance across the (virtual) runway. Where-ever you’re seeing these fun add ons, it is clear to see this trend has already made a big impact. In a time when chest up fashion is the only part of an outfit others see on Zoom calls, a statement collar is the ultimate accessory.

Top Collar

Alt-Piece

Styled Right

First Monday in May

For the obvious reasons, it comes as no surprise that this first Monday in May will not be hosting the fabulous Met Gala. The Met Gala is an iconic event for the Metropolitan Museum of Art with a focus on fashion, raising funds for the Met’s Costume Institute. The Met Gala 2020 theme is “About Time: Fashion and Duration”. Partly inspired by Virginia Woolf and the theories of Henri Bergson. While the Met Gala has been postponed until October 29th due to the virus, Vogue will be celebrating and hosting a live stream on their YouTube channel featuring a live address from the editor in chief, Anna Wintour, as well as performances by Florence and the Machine and a dj-set by Virgil Abloh.

In honor of the first Monday in May, lets take a look back to the most glamours, show stopping, jaw dropping outfits in Met Gala history.

The Ultimate Self Care: Self Talk

The precautions we are given during this pandemic are essential to follow.  Knowing we are in this together — as a country, as a community —can be reassuring.  Remembering that the current circumstances will not last forever can be helpful too.  But when we’re asked to stay home, distanced from our loved ones, we must adjust our understanding of normal for the unforeseeable future. It’s normal to wonder how this might affect us psychologically. 

While there’s endless content for all the new hobbies, recipes, workouts and Netflix shows to experiment with as we all spend an unprecedented amount of time at home it’s frustrating to see little information available regarding our mental states.  Yes, learning new skills is a great way to spend this seemingly unlimited amount of time, but what’s more useful is new skills we can learn to help us mentally adjust.  As the number of COVID-19 cases rise, so does associated effects like anxiety or depression. According to the Mental Health America (MHA), mental health effects of the pandemic are just as important to address as the physical health effects…  “…for the one in five who already have mental health conditions – or the one in two who are at risk of developing them – we need to take personal, professional, and policy measures now to address them.”

The unknown is scary. When it comes to the virus, we have constant questions, concerns, and feelings of fear. In an effort to remain optimistic and hopeful, the power of perspective could be crucial. The way we speak to ourselves, or self talk, is more important now than ever. In a world where self care is constantly discussed, the greatest form of self care is self talk. 

So, What is Self-Talk, Anyway?

What is self talk? Self talk is our inner dialogue; it’s the way we refer to ourselves. Self-talk can be influenced by our subconscious and reveal our inner thoughts, beliefs, questions and ideas. It can be positive or negative, encouraging or distressing. Dr. Denise Fournier, Ph.D, wrote in Psychology Today that “…[self-talk] has a lot to do with our sense of wellbeing, and it’s something that can either help or harm us in pretty significant ways.” (https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/mindfully-present-fully-alive/201901/why-shift-in-self-talk-is-the-ultimate-self-care-strategy)

Self talk depends on your perspective, but can shift by being aware of how you talk to yourself.  It is imperative to recognize the tone you use with yourself because it affects your outlook on the world.  The language we use when talking to ourselves to explain and understand our surroundings is just as important as the tone we use. Tone is conveyed through word choice and point of view.  What is your tone when you self talk?  Is it kind, demeaning, gentle, facetious?  The quality of your internal speech is essential; not just in what you say, but how you say it. 

Ways to Shift Your Self Talk

Sometimes I catch myself speaking so meanly to myself. I can be truly cruel.  I have the exceptional skill of getting very down on myself about past situations that can no longer be changed.  I’m talking 10 – 15 years ago.  Belittling myself for things I should have done, scrutinizing myself for who I should have been. My inner dialogue has the capability of becoming very dark and my brain can become the most intense black hole.  It takes great effort to stop myself once I notice what is happening.  Once I’m aware of what I’m doing to myself, I stop to think about if I would ever let someone speak to my friend the way I speak to myself.  The answer is always no. So, why do I allow myself to be spoken to in such a crippling way, even if it’s self-inflicted? 

“Is the way you’re talking to yourself internally how you would allow loved ones to be spoken to?  In the Psychology Today article, Dr. Fournier points out, “…you probably have certain streams of inner chatter that, if you aren’t careful, can cripple you. Caring for yourself means catching critical self-talk and replacing it with a more affirming inner narrative” (https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/mindfully-present-fully-alive/201901/why-shift-in-self-talk-is-the-ultimate-self-care-strategy).

The first step to eliminating negative self-talk is recognizing it.  Pessimistic and defeatist mentalities are not concrete. It’s important to recognize that just because you think something doesn’t mean it’s real. Negative thoughts are simply negative thoughts that must be contained and sent on their way. Building an awareness surrounding yourself talk, as well as your inner critic, allows a shift in perspective to begin. 

Once you recognize how you’re speaking to yourself, feel comfortable in cross examining the inner critic. Challenge the thoughts you’re having and stand up for yourself, just like you would do for a friend, and a friend would do for you.

Shifting your mindset may seem impossible, but can get easier with practice. Instead of thinking, “I have to do this,” change your perspective to a slightly more optimistic point of view that you, “get the chance to do this…”. 

The Word To Avoid

Avoid words like ‘should.’  This word has a negative connotation because it is used to make a judgment.  When we use the word should to ourselves or others we are reinforcing the negative, that we or they are not doing it.  When we use the word should, we are not accepting reality.  We are referring to things that we wish were different, but aren’t.  Instead of focusing on that fact that you should do something, think about why you should do it instead.  Insteading of thinking “I should go for a run more often”, shift your self talk to why you want to do this.  “I feel strong and powerful while I run”, “I feel more connected to my body after my run”, or “I love being outside and exploring my neighborhood during my run”.

Avoiding words like ‘should’ may seem impossible, but comparing yourself to others can be detrimental. Setting limits with social media can be helpful because a lot of what we see through our screen isn’t real life. Transparency with others –sharing how you’re feeling and the inner dialogue you’re having with yourself — allows a community to build and can help you realize you’re not alone. But endless picture-perfect Instagram posts can instead make us feel isolated, or worse, shameful or jealous. Additionally, when you talk to others and put actual words to your self talk, you gain a new perspective which might soften your initial response (to yourself) in the future.  

There’s One Caveat: Toxic Positivity

Although there’s power in positivity, being too positive can be just as harmful as being negative.  With self talk, it’s important to validate how you’re feeling rather than simply dismiss your feelings. Always being positive is not a cure all. If anything, it is denying yourself your true emotions.  See below for some examples. 

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Whitney Goodman, LMFT

These are different ways you can shift your perspective, modify your self talk, and move away from toxic positivity. Suppressing any emotions is never helpful.  Giving yourself validation, reassurance and hope for your feelings and emotions are necessary to give you the freedom to feel exactly how you are feeling. 

While we may be isolated, scared and unsure of what’s next, we know a few things.  We know that this will not last forever, and we know that now, more than ever, we need to be kind to one another. We need to be kind to ourselves. In truly unprecedented times, one of the most important people to keep in touch with and check in on is ourselves. Self talk is the ultimate form of self care, with so much uncertainty living in our daily lives, there is power in your perspective and how you treat yourself. 

Inspiring Outfits While Working from Home, To Keep You Inspired While Working From Home

If your morning commute has suddenly changed from a over-crowded subway car to a too-short walk to your dining room (or living room) table, you are not alone. It goes without saying that our daily lives have changed, leaving us in deep contemplation about whether or not we should even venture outside. The office environment has become yours, and yours alone.

With the news suggesting that self isolation and #WFH can last for another six weeks, creating a work space in your home is more serious then ever. In the quiet (or chaos) of your own space, what are you doing to make this transition productive, calming and sustainable? As we try to figure out where our new “desk” should be and if its, truly, conducive to meeting deadlines; the question whispered time and time again remains, what should I wear?

When it comes to maintaining a sense of normalcy in our day to day, the content is endless. Livestreams, how-to’s, new recipes. At home workouts to mimic your morning sweat sesh, continuing to go to bed at your normal time, and actually learning how to make coffee to replace your Starbucks macchiato (and saving yourself a few bucks). Another sense of normalcy that shouldn’t go away just because you’re not going out the door, is changing into your outfit for work.

That being said, your work outfit has definitely changed since you no longer have to physically see anyone. Why be constricted in that high waisted skirt? The every day bra can finally be replace with something more comfortable and just as supportive. While it is encouraged to change out of your pajamas, who says you can’t wear sweats to your new office? Especially when you don’t have any Zoom calls for the day! Below are a few ideas of how to be comfy, and remain confident, in your #WFH wardrobe.

Sweatsuit is the New Suit

We’ve seen the rise of sets since the summer set trend last year. A matching top and bottom is super cute no matter where you’re going, or aren’t going in this instance. The great thing about owning a set is that its essentially three outfits in one. This investment buy can be worn together or separately, allowing the outfits to be endless. Perhaps the only difference between this outfit and what you slept in, is that there’s correlation behind the top and bottom choice. Regardless, there is intention when you put this set on and start your day.

T-Shirt Territory

While blouses are fun and rarely annoying to wear, now is the time to bust out your t-shirts. I’m not saying we’re never wearing blouses again – if you are in the mood for a button down or silk blouse because it makes you feel better, have at it! But, if you’re someone like me who collects band tees and loves a good tie-dye shirt, now is the time to flaunt your weekend style that isn’t necessarily. Pair your tee with jeans or leggings, add a sweater or denim jacket for a layering piece and (ta-da) you’re dressed for work. Just because we are stuck inside doesn’t mean we can’t have fun with our outfit and be comfortable. Those cute graphic tees that aren’t, necessarily, office appropriate can now be worn all day long. This forever favorite article of clothing is trustworthy and reliable for a reason.

Jumpsuits Are (Also) The New Suits

There’s a reason this one look, one stop piece is a favorite. Who says an outfit needs to be a top and bottom when it could be both? The jumpsuit defines comfort and ease. Thats why the styles, silhouettes, patterns, prints and colors are truly endless. There is a jumpsuit for everyone. And that is why this piece should absolutely be included in your #WFH wardrobe. You can polish your look through layering. An open jacket, sweater or even a shirt over your jumpsuit can completely change your outfit. Jumpsuits are an easy way to look put together (for when you unexpectedly have a meeting) while still being comfortable in your own home. The options are truly endless, and the choice is yours.

With everything going on, the world and your life can feel chaotic, disheartening, scary, among other things. I have always found comfort in being able to choose my outfits that reflect how I’m feeling or how I want to feel. It gives me a sense of control in an, otherwise, uncontrollable situation. Now that we have fewer restrictions about dress code, my freedom to dress how I want has expanded; and I’ve found a small joy in this. Aiming to keep some sort of normalcy makes sense right now, but just because we have to stay home doesn’t mean we have to wear pajamas all day long.

Being creative with my #WFH outfits has been fun. It’s something creative and exciting to look forward to. It is also important to remember that if you’re waking up and not in the mood to put an outfit together because, lets be honest, who’s going to see it? That is completely okay too! It’s important to allow yourself to feel exactly how you feel. But if its helpful to wear something cute to lift your spirits, I hope you keep these outfit ideas in mind.

INTERMIX / A Curated Shopping Experience

As department stores continue to crumble, grasping for a bankruptcy bail out, a smaller brand continues to rise. With 36 stores across North America, Intermix is able to maintain the intimate boutique feeling with the idea a department store aims to uphold. Unlike a department store, with too much selection and multiple levels to shop from; Intermix is a carefully curated collection. Walking into an Intermix makes the cardio exercise (shopping) simpler, but just as fun. In a time when retail seems to be splitting at the seams, how is this smaller, but mightier, brand able to stay afloat?

A specialty boutique known for having “the most sought-after styles from compelling and edited mix of both established and emerging designers”. This brand is able to mix old with new in a refreshing twist. Their edit is simple when broken down, take what is familiar but push the envelope a little further into what is next. Viola. Furthermore, their focus on customer service and creating a one-on-one shopping experience cannot be found in neither department stores nor any other retail store. Shopping with this brand is, essentially, shopping with a friend. Intermix was founded in 1993 and acquired by Gap Inc. in 2012. Each boutique is created as a source for the clients lifestyle. Offering pieces that suit the location, Intermix focuses on “…each boutique’s assortment of merchandise…hand-selected to reflect the nuances of its neighborhood”.

In addition to the selection offered in stores, there is another huge strategy setting Intermix apart from their competitors. Throughout the years, the brand has been aligning with campaigns and celebrities to bring social issues to light. WWD wrote on March 5, 2020 how Intermix is teaming up with Rock the Vote, Sophia Bush and others to encourage voter registrations. Creating partnerships about issues that matter is one of the smartest ways a brand can be relevant in todays world. With so much noise, misinformation and regurgitated marketing ploys, the choice of what your brand stands for means everything to the consumer. That is, if the consumer cares. Which we know the younger generations definitely care about issues happening around the world. Having a stance and making a decision based upon that point of view shows balls, and when you’re able to prove that you put your money where you mouth is, its respectable.

When you walk into an Intermix the pieces are chic, edgy and fun. Walking through, you gain a sense, a gentle reminder, that you can be anyone you want to be. And Intermix will help you find the clothes to be that person. A mixture of brands from MOTHER, Balmain, Zimmermann to Nanushka, the selection is vast but structured. Everyone can be included in this curation, this store is not a one size fits all. There is no singular vision, the clothes allow you to dress however you feel – in all ways that you feel. Instead of pushing a certain silhouette or pattern that’s popular for the moment, Intermix has pieces that will remain in your closet for your life.

Its an interesting juxtaposition, to see the demise of department stores compared to speciality boutiques. Is the secret magic in the square footage? The selection? How does a bigger, and presumably, better brand fall to its knees while a smaller brand remain, if not, prevail? With a smaller company you are able to focus on whats important – the customer, the selection you offer, the way in which you choose to make an offer. With a smaller company, you are able to focus your efforts where they matter – social issues, your customers, your employees. In a time where retail is unstable, Intermix is able to uphold their truth and stick to what they know. They’ve successfully created a reputation that does not waiver with the rest of the industry, Intermix has impeccable taste in fashion and style.

How to Transform Your Career With Manageable 1-Year Goals

Career planning isn’t what it used to be. The modern worker changes their profession on average between five and seven times, making it almost impossible to predict a person’s trajectory over the next five to 10 years. Conditions are in constant flux. As markets invent new positions, like CDO, they also eliminate others that have become redundant or obsolete—like switchboard operators. 

If you’re considering changing career directions, the first thing you should do is outline a strategy for the upcoming year. Here’s a step-by-step guide for creating a long-term career goal and a few tips on how to ensure your success. 

How to Set a 12-Month Goal in 3 Steps 

1. Self-Reflection 

During the first phase, think about what exactly you want to achieve. Consider how your professional choices will affect your lifestyle—for example, your financial standing, work-life balance, mandatory business travel, and daily social interactions.  

Then try to untangle why this plan is important to you. Are you motivated by internal or external drivers? Could anything change that would cause you to question or regret your decision? Examine your priorities and motivations before going any further. 

2. Goal-Setting 

In 1981, consultant and business leader George Doran introduced a goal-setting mindset called S.M.A.R.T. He suggested business managers should create goals that are: 

Specific: Be specific about what you want to achieve. The goal should be able to answer why, when, where, who, and how questions. 

Measurable: How are you going to measure your progress? Your goal will feel tangible and less abstract when you develop a way to track key performance indicators. Break down the overall goal into specific milestones and create deadlines. 

Achievable: Think about how to make your goal achievable. What parameters limit your impact? Can you access all the required resources, for example, or do you need to acquire new skills? If you can’t meet your goal within 12 months, analyze the benefits and cost and decide if you should adjust your timeline or your expectations.  

Relevant: Focus on ideas that speak to the big picture. How is your goal relevant to your career, company, industry, and overall happiness? How will it give you a sense of purpose? You also need to consider if your career goals make sense within the context of the current market and regulations. For example, do you still want to pursue a board advisory position if more states adopt labor laws like AB-5?

Timely: It’s not enough just to set deadlines—the timing has to be realistic, too. Think about your milestones and how long it will take to progress through each stage. Does your plan account for delays and seasonal changes? Do you anticipate occasional drops in productivity (for example, over a holiday)? Schedule milestones according to these conditions. 

3. Development 

After you’ve defined your goals and examined your motivations, the last step is to develop a plan. This proposal needs to be actionable and explain step-by-step how to complete the goal in chronological order.  

Write the outline by hand to engage both the left and right hemispheres of your brain and boost creative problem-solving. The simple act of putting pen to paper can force new perspective and focus.  

6 Tips for Sticking to Your 1-Year Goal

Use the following suggestions to stay on track after you begin working on a goal that will take 12 months or longer to complete.

1. Stay vigilant. 

The follow-through is the hardest part. No matter how you feel, believe that things will get better and keep up your momentum. 

2. Be flexible. 

Life is filled with choices, and your priorities and motivations will evolve over time. It’s okay to change your plans to suit your needs today. Adapt when it’s needed, and try to view your overall career trajectory as a series of improvements, not steppingstones to a static outcome. 

3. Take what’s given. 

Whether you use Google Calendar, Excel spreadsheets, or a paper checklist, there are lots of tools at your disposal to stay on track. Set up reminders and notifications on your phone or work computer for every milestone.  

4. Work together. 

If possible, share your plan with a fellow team member or colleague. Ask for their input and listen to their opinions. They could uncover traps you’d otherwise miss.  

Just like having a “gym buddy,” telling someone else about your goal also creates a chain of accountability. When you go public with your goals, you’re more likely to stick with them. 

5. Celebrate small successes. 

One year is a long road. To stay motivated, reward yourself for incremental wins along the way. When you celebrate your achievements, it reinforces your commitment.  

6. Embrace the hustle. 

Too much stress can paralyze you, but it can also be a good motivator. It pushes you to finish the project that’s due in two days; it compels you to pick up the phone and answer for your report. Let yourself dream big but be kind to yourself too. Rome wasn’t built in a day, and neither will your career. 

What Should You Wear to a Job Interview in 2020?

Fashion is a form of self expression. Whether you’re walking down the street or into a boardroom, what you wear says something about who you are. The times have changed and there is, slightly, more freedom in how you present yourself in the workplace. No longer are men obligated to wear a suit and tie, nor women expected to wear heels and a skirt every day. With the Millennial generation slowly taking over the workplace, working from home and casual Fridays are becoming the norm. During the interview process, the clothing you choose to wear can make or break your first impression with a potential employer. Luckily, there are some finite do’s and don’ts when it comes to what you wear for an interview.

Suit Up!

Suiting up doesn’t have to be as cumbersome as one might think. For men, wearing a suit includes a suit jacket and pants, with a dress shirt and tie. If a black suit seems too serious, try a navy or dark grey suit. You can pair your suit with a solid color dress shirt. Either a lighter shade of your suit color, or you can never go wrong with crisp white dress shirt. If you want to wear a patterned dress shirt with your suit, wear a smaller design or pattern so it’s not distracting. The suit should be pressed and the shirt ironed. When choosing a tie, similarly to the dress shirt, don’t go crazy with pattern choice. A classic stripe or solid is best. For your initial meeting, it is always better to dress formally rather than risk looking too casual.

Wearing a suit can mean something entirely different for women. This is where your classic blazer comes in. The fit of your blazer is important. There should be room in the shoulders, and not tight across your back. Move your arms when you try it on to ensure it is comfortable and not confining. You don’t want this to look tight. The length of the blazer should also end just below your hips and covering about half-to-almost all of your bottom. Wearing high waisted bottoms is the most flattering style for body types. Depending on the company and their environment, the bottom choice is versatile. A skirt or trouser is viewed as more finance and corporate level. Dark denim completely acceptable to wear as long as the wash is black or dark navy. Your bottom choice should be the same color as your blazer choice, pair this with a neutral top and you have created the idea of a suit.

When it comes to interviewing for a start up company and outfit choice, New York Magazine says “it depends” (https://nymag.com/strategist/article/how-to-dress-for-a-tech-interview.html). Do some research on the company and their culture. This might help gauge what is deemed appropriate. Since chino’s can be viewed as dressy, try pairing the pants with a low sneaker. If you’re not sure what to wear, dark denim has the versatility needed for almost all company environments.

So Many Shoes, So Little Time

When it comes to shoe choice, the rules are pretty simple. Closed toe shoes only. No one wants to see your feet the first time they meet you for a potential job. Liveaboutit.com listed the five shoes to never wear to an interview: sneakers, sandals and open toed shoes, shimmery or over embellished shoes, extremely high heels or shoes that are dirty or torn (https://www.liveabout.com/the-worst-shoes-for-a-job-interview-2988925).

The good news is that there are so many great options for closed toe shoes. You have flats, loafers, kitten heels, booties and so many more! If you do choose to wear a heel, avoid stilettos. The heel height should not exceed 2 – 2 1/2 inches. Make sure whatever shoe choice you decide is comfortable, you want to walk into the room with confidence, not hobble in with a newfound blister.

Go Bold and Go Home

When it comes to color choice there is a lot of research out there about what colors say about a person. According to WhoWhatWear.com here are the best and worst colors to wear to an interview (https://www.whowhatwear.com/what-colors-to-wear-to-an-interview).

The Best Colors

Blue: This color conveys the most positive energy right off the bat. Brighter shades can be more eye-catching, while darker shades like navy are ideal for a more conservative company environment.

Gray: This color says that you are smart, savvy and even-keeled. There are a variety of shades of gray to play with as well. From the darker shades (a great alternative to black) such as charcoal or ash to lighter shades like stone, the choice is yours. This color can also allow for some playful choices when it comes to your accessories. In terms of ties, socks and jewelry, you can add a small pop of color without being too eccentric.

Black: Because this color can be taken very seriously, try to save this for high powered interviews. Black can be powerful and aloof, and is ideal for top jobs and managerial positions. This color, however, might not work when applying to customer service, retail or entry-level positions.

The Worst Colors

Orange: This color is abrasive, unprofessional, over-confident and a little too playful. Unless you’re interviewing at Hermès, orange is considered to be the worst color to wear to an interview.

Brown: This color comes across as old-fashioned and uninventive. While the color conveys reliability and solidity, generally it can be unmemorable. This drab color is not the best choice for anyone who wants to make a lasting impression.

Red: While you may look great in red, skip this choice when going to an interview. This color conveys hostility, defiance and volatility – not exactly what you want to say to a potential employer.

Try It On

Whatever you decide, make sure you try on and prep your outfit before the day of the interview. The morning of, you’re going to be nervous enough. Take the time – ahead of time- to organize your outfit, pack your bag and have everything ready to go. Steam your shirts, iron your suit, polish your shoes, have your tie and socks picked out. When you’re trying on your outfit, make sure to sit down? This will, most likely, be the position you’re in the majority of the time. Are you comfortable?

Nooks & Crannies

“The devil is in the detail” speaks to the idea that the small, minuscule factors which may or may not be accounted for, can speak volumes about who you are as a person. Pay attention to the details of your outfit. For men, if you are wearing a suit, the color of your shoes should match the color of your belt. The color of your tie and your socks should be, generally, the same. Use collar stays to keep your collar crisp. While these tips may seem unnecessary, it is these details that people remember. Save the crazy patterns for a themed party. You can never go wrong with understated and classic.

Another detail which shouldn’t come as a surprise is to tuck your shirt in. This goes for both men and women. Tucking your shirt in is like the icing on the cake. For men, it conveys being put together. For women, when you tuck your shirt into your high-waisted bottoms, you are highlighting the smallest part of your body (your natural waist).

When it comes to jewelry, women should avoid wearing dangly earrings or armfuls of bracelets. Subtle and minimal are key words to remember when choosing which pieces to wear. For men, don’t wear anything more than a watch and wedding band (https://www.thebalancecareers.com/how-to-choose-interview-accessories-2061161). Since you’ll be carrying your resume and other essentials along to the interview, the bag you choose doesn’t need to match your outfit. Just make sure the bag is clean and polished. Skip your backpack for the interview.

Fabric Choice

Being knowledgeable about the fabrics in your closet will make a huge difference to your wardrobe. Knowing what pieces to wear, because of what they’re made of, can change the way you choose how to dress for the day. These tips can be helpful if you have a non-professional or business casual interview. When considering your options, think about what your outfit is made of.

If your considering wearing pieces that are made of cotton, linen or rayon, they might not be the best choice because they wrinkle easily. With cotton or rayon, you have a better chance of having this piece be an undergarment (think shirt) so that you are able to hide if the fabric does wrinkle on your way to the interview. However, linen, should be avoided altogether.

Fabrics like wool, silk, polyester and cashmere are better choices for interview outfits. These fabrics do not wrinkle as easily, and they are breathable. You might get a little nervous before the interview, if you break into a minor sweat, not to worry because fabrics like wool, are naturally able to wick moisture away and retain it when necessary. Silk and cashmere are luxurious and accessible in an array of silhouettes. Having items in these fabrics will automatically elevate your outfit.

For men, most dress shirts are made of cotton or a cotton/polyester blend. More retailers are also offering non-wrinkle dress shirts, so there should be plenty of options. Just make sure, especially if you’re shopping for an interview outfit, that you pay attention to what the pieces are made of just as much as how they fit and feel on you. Most importantly, you want to feel good in what you’re wearing. When you are confident in your outfit, it transcends to your energy and radiates a positive attitude.